The Illusion That Life STOPS....

There are times, when we get this "illusion" that life would stop if a certain thing doesn't go as we planned or we wanted!

We keep fighting all odds afraid to lose it...

We think our plan is the best plan... we think we know what should happen... we think we know what's right…

The day we lose it we see BLACKNESS... the day we lose it we go out of our way to bring it back... we do all sorts of stuff to fight it!

We get the illusion that life would stop... that nothing good would happen again!

WE ARE WRONG!

We are the ones who stop! We freeze! Life never does!

However, with time we realize a lot of things...

What we thought was impossible becomes the norm... gets embedded into our day lives... we get used to things being gone... we might even get to a point where we do not even realize it’s gone!

We might even start regretting all we did not to lose it... we could wish we let it go as soon as things started falling apart...

After all you never get what’s not yours… after all you can’t fight to keep something that doesn’t want you as much…

You realize it’s not worth it anymore… you realize that even if it happens now it lost all its essence and beauty!

We might realize that with just a few days things aren't as bad as we might have imagined them to turn out... that all we needed was to hold our breath, to keep cool for a few minutes or even hours until this urgency to fight back was gone….

As the song says, "it's just a moment, this time will pass."

We think we're Stuck In A Moment... you think if you let this minute go everything ends... but it's not true... time will pass... things get better...

Life doesn’t stop at anything or for anyone… thinking it does is nothing but an illusion…

Understanding that it doesn’t stop is important… understanding that all you need is to breath is crucial… understand that when you’re at the edge… you don’t need to fight back… when you think you’ll lose it, don’t hold on to it… Just let it go… it’s okay… it’s not the end of the world!

I’m not saying this out of being philosophical or asking people to give up… I've been there a lot! Now I know that it’s okay to let go… if it’s meant to happen its coming back to you… if its not, don’t worry… something else will… Don’t let your illusions tell you that life would stop!

Time...

I've always tried to figure out whether time is my friend or my enemy!? However, it's not time itself... it's the changes that time brings upon us that has this questionable impact on us...

For me, the worst thing time brings changes upon are relationships... Well true, love relationships, but not just that... Even friendships... or any possible relationship that could exist...

Let's see...

I was born and raised in Saudi Arabia; lived there for 18 years. I was in an International School with friends from every single part of the globe; then left that all behind and came to Egypt. Then I lived in the dorms for a year, where people came from all over Egypt or expats studying in Egypt and again left that behind and settled in my home. Then there was university where I spent four years with amazing people, and then we graduated and each took their own road to the future (worked elsewhere, got married, busy with kids, masters, PhD...) and changed three jobs so far each with a different set of busy people...

And true the internet has proved to be a major help to us in keeping people in touch and communicating. However, it's not the same... time has changed the nature of our relationships... how we speak and what we say...

There are also those people who we stop speaking to or lose touch with... 'cause we've argued over something stupid and we both can't get our egos to just get over it OR 'cause things didn't work out... OR for whatever reason! But despite the fact that we can't speak to them today 'cause there has been too much damage, deep down you still value them in your hearts and wished things were different!

And my question is... how is that someone can be in your life day in and day out, morning, night and then BOOM... they're no longer there. How's that fair, that you get used to someone and then they're not there anymore.

How is it that something comes up... and that was the one person you'd turn to but they're not there anymore to talk to them about it either 'cause you just haven't spoken in too long, 'cause you've agreed to part ways or 'cause telling them the story via e-mail is just not the same...

How is it that one day that person was everything to you and you share them everything and they're almost with you every single minute of every day AND NOW you think twice or even ten times before you say hello...

How is it that a childhood friend has now turned into status update to you? And we call that keeping in touch... you see their graduation pics rather than be there...

How is it that someone you wished would stay long enough in your life, now you no longer know anything about?

How is it that they cross your mind... and all you can do is let them JUST cross your mind...

How is it that all you can do is worry about them from afar 'cause time has put you at distant ends!

How, How, How, How, How...

Why does time change things this way? Why can't things stay the same... stay stable! Keep the people we value the same, they don't change... we don't change. Keeping the ties, keeping the feelings the same, the distance close... Making the bonds stronger rather than weaker!

And again I say, maybe this change is for the better... so I really dunno, does this impact time has on us and our relationships with people... does that make time our friend our enemy...

In some situations, I can assure you time is an enemy... I mean, why do childhood friends end up on different parts of the globe?

The way I see it, today it could be our enemy... later in the future, when we have better vision and a better understanding we'd see it as our friend...

Umm... I have no idea actually... after writing about it... It's more like LIFE not TIME that's an issue... and as they say in the end of every story, C'est La Vie or This Is Life....

The point is to train yourself to get used to it and to accept the changes that life or time throw at you... to let go of whatever was left behind... and tell yourself every MINUTE of every DAY that time is also capable of bringing better things your way!