The GOOD People We Meet in Life...

Life is pretty random, ironic, frustrating and unfair!

I keep searching for positive stuff to write and I can't help but fall into the negativity trap! It just runs to me with arms wide open!

I even tried stepping away from my self and finding positive stuff to write... stuff I see in other people and my surroundings and I still spot on negativity... 

I have to admit that even when I rarely find something positive to write about, it's short and stupid and inexpressive... I fail to be positive and to express positivity... Perhaps I have not yet run into something that is positive enough to move me and get me writing passionately...

ANYWAY...
I've recently noticed some great people in life... (don't get your hopes up, this isn't positive, not even close) like good people... amazing people who are simply just GOOD inside out... 

YET...
Strangely enough... I've also noticed that these GOOD, awesome people don't seem to be getting what they deserve... These people need tons of love, care, passion, consideration, appreciation, warmth, and thankfulness for their mere presence in life. At least for the fact that they wish you good morning with a smile...

I don't know what's up with life being unfair! It's beyond me to understand why some jerks are surrounded by lots of loving people who are willing to give them everything and anything... and the real actual GOOD nice people are surrounded by others who don't value them or deserve them!

It's beyond me to understand why these nice people get a life of unhappiness... worry... and lack of emotional support. Why their expectations are never met! Why they keep getting let down once, twice, trice and forever... Why they're surrounded by jerks who just mistreat them and cause them pain and disappointment. Why aren't they appreciated and valued. Why does BAD LUCK just keep chasing them day in and day out! Why they get pushed around and treated like invisibles!

It's beyond me to understand why these GOOD people are the ones who end up heartbroken, who go to sleep at night crying or worrying about tomorrow, why they end up with husbands and wives who doesn't deserve them, kids who don't value them and friends who forget them... Why are they the ones who end up neglected and ignored!

It's beyond me to understand why some people choose to be rude and hurt someone who has been nothing but super nice to them!

It's beyond me to understand why some people emotionally SCREW up other who have always been there for them and are keen to never making them feel bad.

The list can really go on forever... 


Why can't life give them a damn break and give them a reason to keep going; to continue being good... make them feel that they weren't fools all along for being this GOOD, decent, nice, caring.... (this list can also go on forever)!

It honestly pisses me off! They just deserve so much more! I can't find the words to explain what they deserve... BUT for a fact they deserve a lot more from everyone around them! These people aren't good, they're GOLD! They deserve to be treated like they're kings and queens! They deserve to be surrounded by people who love them and are willing and capable of giving back to them, even when they don't ask for it!

Why can't life just do some freakin' mixing and matching for a change. Give the jerks to the jerks and the nice ones to the nice ones.

Life is unfair... it's a fact I learnt to be true with every single passing day. A fact that I've come to accept. I've also come to accept that thinking otherwise is naive and stupid. 

I have met GOOD people in my life... and if life and others choose to be jerks to them... I can at least try to be nice to them back until life does it's magic and treats them well one day... or so I hope! I also choose to believe that one day goodness will be paid off by life! AT LEAST, it's a reason to keep going!

SIGH!

The Perfect Life of Others...

We often get this feeling that others run these amazing perfect lives... We often look at them and wonder why can't we lead these smooth, happy and interesting lives?

And we grumble with frustration about why we are not like them... we consider ourselves unfortunate, unlucky and sometimes even cursed because we see our lives as nothing BUT a step from one mud puddle to an even bigger mud puddle!

Even more, we sometimes feel others look at us with this "eye!" And most probably we feel annoyed and you wanna SCREAM at them: if only you know it's not as perfect as it looks...

AND THAT'S THE GLITCH; right there!!

Those people we look at with amusement and sometimes envy... they too wanna scream at us: if only you know it's not as perfect as it looks...

Those people we look up to and claim they have perfect lives.... simply DON'T! Everyone lives in their own roller coaster of events, issues, problems, stress, crap, failures & frustrations... We only think their lives are running smooth... But we all have our bumps... some days are good and happy others are bad, difficult and gloomy!

We all have our ups and downs, however, we are all good at playing pretend... we all like to keep the bad side undercover and we like to show up with big smiles... we like to talk about the things that make us happy... we like to brag about success... we don't want to look bad, we don't want to seem weak, we don't want to get exposed... OR perhaps we just wanna forget about whatever problems we have for just a little while!

And that is REALLY okay! We are entitled to escaping from whatever it is that makes us unhappy!

What matters is that we grasp the fact that whatever we're going through is happening with everyone! We have to realize that these lucky people... are just people with their own good days and bad days!

The perfect lives of others is really an illusion that we immerse ourselves with... little do you know these others might even have more problems than us... they might be considering us lucky!

Let's take it easy... I'm no expert... I'm talking to myself more than talking to anyone... I keep telling myself everyone has problems, there is no such thing as perfect lives, there is no life that runs completely smooth... I keep telling myself these bumps are what give our lives meaning!

So instead of looking at the lives of others with that "eye" I should rather learn to accept mine, smile about it, focus on the bright side and find ways in working around my bad days and my problems.

- sigh!