The Focal Point Of Our Lives…

I don’t know if this is true for others, applicable across cultures or equally valid for guys… but why is it that I feel our entire life revolves around finding the right partner!

I’m not denying that I’d love to run into the right guy… ‘cause I’d love that!

But why is it taking too much out of our thoughts and feelings?!?

I have no answer for this question… I’m just wondering out loud… so if any of you have suggestions; don’t hesitate to fill me in! But I noticed that whenever we girls get together this issue takes up a lot of our mental space!

We live to visualize what life with that significant other would be like! We create dreams and wait for them to turn into reality...

But the fact that our life revolves around finding the significant others just makes everything else seem like it’s not enough… you don’t enjoy it… like something is always missing!

Maybe I’m wrong… but sometimes I feel I’ve achieved a lot in my life… not a lot as in worldwide, recognized achievements, but I haven’t done so bad and I’m still not satisfied and I still feel finding that significant other might be the element that will complete the picture…

And I wonder, when that significant other is found, when the life partner is there… will I get that feeling of completeness? Will it be worth the wait? Will it really be the beginning of my dream of a perfect life? Or will I have another focal point around which my life exits!

Or is the focal point of our lives… the lack of satisfaction of where we are at the moment and what we have!

Honestly, I really have no clue!

The Significant Other...

We as females seldom get into deep discussions regarding how we’d like our partners to be… and opinions do differ and you’d be surprised at what sort of things girls look for… I mean it’s not a lie when they say we’re complicated, lol!

Anyhow, deep down inside, I totally believe that this significant other could be the exact opposite of what you’ve always been dreaming of and could probably not resemble that image you’ve always had for him in your mind…

But like all girls, I too do have an image…

And by image I do not mean in looks, it’s more like a perception of who the person would be…

I want a guy I can count on and depend on, someone I can trust…

A guy who likes me a lot and is patient ‘cause I tend to piss of the people I like, lol! I meant it, patience is key!

I want to be able to talk to him forever and ever, be able to tell him anything that comes to mind, I want him to be the first person who crosses my mind whenever something happens…

I don’t want my heart to every stop beating when I hear his voice or see him… and I definitely want us to keep smiling every time our eyes meet.

I want him to be able to talk to me into stuff, not ‘cause he’s the guy and his word goes over mine, but because I want to listen to what he’s gotta say, ‘cause his opinion does matter to me…

I want him to look at me when I’m speaking, bring me flowers for no good reason and msg me when we’re at work just to say hi :) I want to cuddle with him and watch a movie… I want to be day dreaming and turn to find him looking at me…

I want him to know I’m upset without me saying and I want him to know how to make me smile when I’m down…

I want to love him enough to be able to make sacrifices… love him enough to care that he’s happy…

Don’t want us to be a boring couple… to not have something to say to each other…. to have inner jokes that crack us up…to go on random trips together!

So will this perception ever really be met? I dunno, I definitely hope it does…

But I’m guessing my Significant Other could be better, could be worst or could just be amazingly different…